Blog number four
Ride or Die!
URBAN DICTIONARY DEFINITION FOR RIDE OR DIE:
Ride or Die was originally a biker term meaning if you couldn't ride you'd rather die. It has now changed to mean anyone (wife, boyfriend, best friend), that you will "ride" ANY problems out with them or "die" trying. The "ride" doesn't always have to be a negative either. Obviously if you're this close to someone you want them to enjoy the "ride" (life and all it has to offer with them as well.)
Ahhhh I get it now! I guess my besties are my ride to dies? I think they are? ok they are? still unclear?
*Was able to convince them to do Vegas for my 30th birthday even though I was the only single lady!
Do you remember in the mid 90s when friendships necklaces were the trendiest thing? Where the pendants were all made into some weird broken heart that you were meant to break apart and give the second half to your “bestie”. I remember my mom purchasing one of those necklaces for me when I was 8 years old and the dilemma of choosing who to give it too built up so much anxiety for me!
The idea of choosing a “best freind” at the age of 8 seems silly, what does a 8 year old know about a best friend? Those days the term “true”, “best”, “forever” were just words that we used because it was attached to unicorns, written on backpacks and SPELLED on necklaces! The concept of giving jewelry and the idea of choice has stuck with me from the age of 8 however the concept of the true friendship only kicked in when I was teenager.
*First zoom call during the crazy pandemic, one of the many things I was able to do to keep my sanity
*Galentine cookie decorating at Cibo for Valentines Day
As years passed on and I went through my own experiences in relationships, I can say that my attachment to the word” best friend aka “bestie” changed from when I was a child. When I started understanding what qualities I wanted to develop for myself, thats when I began to understand what qualities I wanted in a friend. I am not perfect, my friends are not perfect so therefore- me wishing for the perfect friendship is unreal.
My girlfriends and I have absolutely different taste in fashion, music, movies and even men but somehow we are able to connect in a way that allows us to be open and true to each other no matter the circumstance. We argue and the battles can get quite loud but the underlying truth about our friendship is the RESPECT we have for one another. We agree to disagree, we listen when its hard too and we address the concerns when we know it hurts the most.
*The very first selfie we ever took for Instagram back in 2014, wow how technology on phones have changed
Friendships just like any other relationship and it will always be evolving. Individuals will change and therefore the dynamics of a friendship will change but to overcome the hurdles, we have to be ready to listen, understand and love with the acceptance for each other flaws and faults.
